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Old 7th May 2012, 08:56 AM   #1
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What is more "interesting" than explaining to your 14-year old about safe sex?

Explaining to your 20-year old about safe S&M.

Granted, for years I expected I would have to do that sooner or later. This sort of thing does tend to run in families.
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Old 7th May 2012, 09:33 AM   #2
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Remember the safe word should never be "Stop", son.
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Old 7th May 2012, 09:59 AM   #3
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Originally Posted by Mark6 View Post
Explaining to your 20-year old about safe S&M.

Granted, for years I expected I would have to do that sooner or later. This sort of thing does tend to run in families.
the safest advice you can give in that situation, is to tell her to stick to switch Dom/mes until she's learned to spot the predators
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Old 7th May 2012, 10:04 AM   #4
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Explaining to your fourteen year old about safe S&M is probably pretty 'interesting' too.
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Old 7th May 2012, 10:09 AM   #5
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Originally Posted by tyr_13 View Post
Explaining to your fourteen year old about safe S&M is probably pretty 'interesting' too.
in most countries, thats abuse
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Old 7th May 2012, 11:43 AM   #6
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Old 7th May 2012, 12:00 PM   #7
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You waited until fourteen ?!

I know that the T.V. cartoon show "Family Guy" has included plenty of episodes about that, little kindergarteners can learn about S&M, safe sex, and sex with the family dog if their parents let them stay up past 8pm.
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Old 7th May 2012, 12:10 PM   #8
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Originally Posted by Roma View Post
You waited until fourteen ?!

I know that the T.V. cartoon show "Family Guy" has included plenty of episodes about that, little kindergarteners can learn about S&M, safe sex, and sex with the family dog if their parents let them stay up past 8pm.
And let them watch Family Guy - a foolish thing for little kids.
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Old 7th May 2012, 01:21 PM   #9
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Originally Posted by Roma View Post
You waited until fourteen ?!

I know that the T.V. cartoon show "Family Guy" has included plenty of episodes about that, little kindergarteners can learn about S&M, safe sex, and sex with the family dog if their parents let them stay up past 8pm.
Family guy is on before 8 in reruns.
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Remember the safe word should never be "Stop", son.
It is perfectly good. It all depends on what you are doing. I think that is the standard safe word for shoots at kink at least when ungagged.
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Old 7th May 2012, 01:26 PM   #11
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Originally Posted by Mark6 View Post
Explaining to your 20-year old about safe S&M.

Granted, for years I expected I would have to do that sooner or later. This sort of thing does tend to run in families.
Your 20-year goes to the parents for advice on safe play? That is so cool. Bravo.
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Old 7th May 2012, 01:33 PM   #12
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Your 20-year goes to the parents for advice on safe play? That is so cool. Bravo.
No, she did not ask for advice initially. But after my wife noticed the bruises, the whole thing came out. And yes, she is quite open to advice.
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Old 7th May 2012, 01:42 PM   #13
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Thanks to the Internet this stuff is all old news to teens, for better or worse.

I have heard teens say "Poop on my chest!" in public, as a synonym for "No way!"
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No, she did not ask for advice initially. But after my wife noticed the bruises, the whole thing came out. And yes, she is quite open to advice.
My niece and nephew went to a zero sex-ed Christian school. Although their mom is open to discussing anything with them, they don't feel comfortable asking. I cleared up a few things for my nephew only because we got on the conversation by accident and his curiosity overrode caution. The fact I am considered some sort of fallen woman by his school's standards might have helped as well. Gotta sex question, ask the slut, right?

It would be so much better if they had a safe-zone for mental exploration of their own needs with some mediator who was more trusted and knowledgeable than the interwebs.
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Old 7th May 2012, 01:53 PM   #15
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It is perfectly good. It all depends on what you are doing. I think that is the standard safe word for shoots at kink at least when ungagged.
the standard safe word for the ungagged is red, usually via green and amber
the standard safe word for the gagged is banana, try it, you'll see why
the english word is stop

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Old 7th May 2012, 01:58 PM   #16
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My parents didn't feel comfortable talking about sex to their children, so they never did. They left it to the schools. Guess how good Virginia's one week 8th grade "sex ed" class was in 1990? I'll put it this way: it didn't cover sex. The boys learned, from the PE teacher, that girls have periods, that they get pregnant if you have sex with them (how to have sex was not covered, nor were methods of preventing pregnancy), and you get diseases from them (what diseases there were, and prevention and/or treatment of them not covered). Oh, and we might expect to grow some hair in places (places not specified).

By the time I was out of high school I not only knew more about sex than my parents, but had had more sex than my parents. They're not bad parents, they're just easily embarrassed and kind of ignorant in certain areas of life. They left it to the schools, and the schools left it to the parents. If I hadn't been a clever boy with a strong instinct for self-preservation all sorts of horrible things could have resulted. Ignorance is dangerous.
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