IS Forum
Forum Index Register Members List Events Mark Forums Read Help

Go Back   International Skeptics Forum » General Topics » General Skepticism and The Paranormal
 


Welcome to the International Skeptics Forum, where we discuss skepticism, critical thinking, the paranormal and science in a friendly but lively way. You are currently viewing the forum as a guest, which means you are missing out on discussing matters that are of interest to you. Please consider registering so you can gain full use of the forum features and interact with other Members. Registration is simple, fast and free! Click here to register today.
Tags faith healers , faith healing

Reply
Old 21st November 2009, 08:30 PM   #1
todd
New Blood
 
Join Date: May 2006
Posts: 11
mom started seeing a faith healer

Have any of you had any success talking to family members that go to see faith healers?

My mom, and her husband, went to see a Dr. Nemeh in Ohio and she's convinced of his powers to heal.

She's always been "new age" and into strange things (woo). But now she's giving up her money and traveling to get "healed".

Any thoughts or suggestions about interventions?

thanks
todd is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 21st November 2009, 09:11 PM   #2
Kariboo
Muse
 
Kariboo's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 496
Hi Todd

Welcome to the forums.

Unless your mom is open to critically looking at her decisions it will be nearly impossible to turn her away from this choice. She will see improvement even if there objectively isn;t any, or when fluctuations in her condition are expected.
__________________
KAREN: Honey, you know I'm a little psychic. Remember when I predicted that Driver was gonna lose his job, and then two days later I fired him?

JACK: My God, you're right. And that time you predicted that Rosario was gonna fall, and then you pushed her down the stairs.
Kariboo is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 21st November 2009, 09:40 PM   #3
truethat
Banned
 
Join Date: Sep 2007
Posts: 13,389
I had a friend who was 40 who did Shaman type things and "energy" healing for her cancer. She's dead now. Took a year for it to kill her. The last thing I did with her was sit in on a Native American healing ritual.
truethat is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 22nd November 2009, 01:32 AM   #4
pakeha
Penultimate Amazing
 
pakeha's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2009
Posts: 12,331
Hi, todd, welcome to theforum
dr Nemeh has been around for some time
I found an article about him from 2005
Issue Date: August 2005 Issue

A Question of Faith

As a window into the phenomenon that has made believers out of the desperate and doctors alike, Dr. Issam Nemeh talks about God, science and his critics.
Lynne Thompson
editorial@clevelandmagazine.com
__________________
How many zeros? Jabba
pakeha is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 22nd November 2009, 01:39 AM   #5
pakeha
Penultimate Amazing
 
pakeha's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2009
Posts: 12,331
From the article found here:
http://209.85.229.132/search?q=cache...=es&lr=lang_en


Quote:
<snip>Dr. Nemeh began a five-year general-surgery residency at Fairview Hospital in 1985. His time there ended three years later when a committee in charge of the program voted not to renew his contract due to poor performance, according to The Plain Dealer.

Cathy says her husband's residency was cut short not by lack of ability but by the program director's bias against Syrians. Nemeh responded by filing a $31 million discrimination lawsuit against the hospital in federal court. The director denied the bias charge and the claim was settled for less than $20,000, according to The Plain Dealer.

After he left Fairview, Nemeh completed a three-year residency in anesthesiology at Huron Hospital in 1991, during which he was honored as House Officer of the Year and Outstanding Resident in Anesthesiology, according to the Nemehs. Dr. Khaled Chaouki, director of cardiac anesthesia at Hillcrest Hospital who then served both as Huron's associate director of anesthesiology and the department's head of education, says Nemeh was "a very pleasant person" who was well-liked by patients and "did a good job in every aspect."

He was hired fresh out of his residency by Richmond Heights General Hospital as chief of anesthesiology (hospital officials could not confirm his position) but left after four months because "he didn't agree with the patient care," Cathy says. (According to the American Board of Anesthesiology, Nemeh was never board certified in the specialty.)

After that, Nemeh completed a five-day training session in meridian regulatory acupuncture, a practice that uses a non-FDA-approved device to provide electrical stimulation through an attached needle.

The interest wasn't anything new. Nemeh says he had experimented on himself with traditional acupuncture for years. "I stuck myself about a couple hundred million times," he says with a chuckle.

But while he was in training, Cathy recalls, Nemeh called to say, "God just sent me the tool that I need to serve him." <snip>
__________________
How many zeros? Jabba
pakeha is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 22nd November 2009, 04:48 PM   #6
Baby Nemesis
Master Poster
 
Baby Nemesis's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: UK
Posts: 2,381
Originally Posted by todd View Post
Have any of you had any success talking to family members that go to see faith healers?

My mom, and her husband, went to see a Dr. Nemeh in Ohio and she's convinced of his powers to heal.

She's always been "new age" and into strange things (woo). But now she's giving up her money and traveling to get "healed".

Any thoughts or suggestions about interventions?

thanks

Discussing critical literature about faith healers with her might help, or leaving some where she'll find it when she's alone, where she can contemplate it without risking the issue turning into an immediate argument where she's on the defensive because she wants to stand up for the man, although you can't be so certain she'll bother to look at the arguments if you're not there raising the issues. Both approaches have advantages and disadvantages.

Here are a few critical articles about faith healing:

Some Thoughts about Faith Healing.
James Randi and the Faith Healers.
Junker Jorge: My Part In The Word Of Faith Fraud.

They might not be about the same kind of faith healers you're talking about, but you might get ideas from them about the kinds of things you could discuss with her, or you might be able to find things on the Internet that are equally critical of the tehcniques he does use.

Alerting her to the dangers like that might help.

But also, if you can find out about more efficacious methods of healing you could encourage her to go for, it might help a lot more than just showing her the literature, since if she doesn't know of any alternatives, she might think it's worth carrying on seeing him because he's her only hope. Perhaps there are new drugs that could help, or practical things she could learn to do for herself, such as are taught on pain management programs, if that's anything to do with the problem? Perhaps there's an American equivalent of this? Pain management approaches: NHS Pain Management Programmes.

Or if she's got some kind of disability, maybe there are disability aids and adaptations that could make things easier for her in everyday settings. Perhaps there are American equivalents of the kinds of services described here? Disabled people: Your home, adaptations and equipment.

Or if it's mainly a mental problem like stress, you could probably find low-cost scientifically-sound advice on things to help her remedy the problems, or there might be therapists who use much sounder techniques than the faith healer you could find.

Discussing options with her alongside cautioning her about faith healers might be persuasive. It'll be more difficult if she's built up a friendship with the man and she trusts him. But it may be that the more she thinks about possible disadvantages of seeing him and alternative possibilities, the more she'll come around to the idea of trying something else.
Baby Nemesis is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 22nd November 2009, 06:02 PM   #7
todd
New Blood
 
Join Date: May 2006
Posts: 11
pakeha - thanks for the article.
Kariboo - that's exactly where we are. We've all seen the story too many times. She's convinced that this guy has the real stuff. If i convince her that he doesn't, i'm sure that she will move on to someone else.

she's all be a "fringe" kinda lady but it has gotten "fringier" of late.
todd is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 22nd November 2009, 06:12 PM   #8
bluesjnr
Professional Nemesis for Hire
 
bluesjnr's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2009
Location: Home.
Posts: 8,534
truethat puts it as succinctly as anybody could in post #3. Tough love, tell Mom.
__________________
bluesjnr is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 23rd November 2009, 02:15 AM   #9
Baby Nemesis
Master Poster
 
Baby Nemesis's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: UK
Posts: 2,381
Here's a good website for information on the harm all kinds of wacky things can do: What's The Harm?

The benefits of discussing different types of healing with her rather than individuals is that she might decide to go for a better healing technique rather than just a different person.
Baby Nemesis is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 23rd November 2009, 10:58 AM   #10
wardenclyffe
Master Poster
 
wardenclyffe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2008
Posts: 2,292
I don't mean to pry, but what is she trying to have healed? Is it immediate and alarming, like cancer, or something painful and chronic like arthritis?

Ward
wardenclyffe is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 23rd November 2009, 06:34 PM   #11
SeanDamnit
Thinker
 
SeanDamnit's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2008
Posts: 161
You should interfere if:
--She's refusing to seek actual medical attention in favor of the faith healer
--The faith healer is putting a major financial strain on her and her family

Otherwise, I say leave her be. It probably makes her happy and makes her feel better even if nothing is really actually healed.
__________________
Irregardless, he supposebly knows alot.

I'm not being lazy, I'm helping to slow down the endless march of entropy and delay the eventual heat death of the universe.
SeanDamnit is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 26th November 2009, 12:42 AM   #12
Questioninggeller
Illuminator
 
Join Date: May 2002
Posts: 3,048
Originally Posted by todd View Post
Have any of you had any success talking to family members that go to see faith healers?

My mom, and her husband, went to see a Dr. Nemeh in Ohio and she's convinced of his powers to heal.

She's always been "new age" and into strange things (woo). But now she's giving up her money and traveling to get "healed".

Any thoughts or suggestions about interventions?

thanks
All the suggestions are good above (I especially recommend Randi's book), but a few more mentions:

Randi discusses Nemeh: http://www.randi.org/jr/082605charles.html#7
And old thread: http://www.internationalskeptics.com...ad.php?t=39194


Quote:
A Question of Faith
Issue Date: August 2005 Issue
Cleveland Magazine
By Lynne Thompson

As a window into the phenomenon that has made believers out of the desperate and doctors alike, Dr. Issam Nemeh talks about God, science and his critics.

Dr. Issam Nemeh sits on a stool and gives my right foot a quick once-over as I watch from an elevated easy chair in the small, simple treatment space in his three-room Rocky River office.
...
Full: Cleveland Magazine
Questioninggeller is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 26th November 2009, 01:13 AM   #13
Quinn
Breathtakingly blasphemous.
 
Quinn's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2002
Posts: 2,310
You could ask if he's as fast and loose with the rest of his observations as he was with this quote:

Quote:
Nemeh says he had experimented on himself with traditional acupuncture for years. "I stuck myself about a couple hundred million times," he says with a chuckle.
Assuming he's in his mid-50s, and assuming he started "experimenting" in his mid-20s, he would have had to stick himself an average of around twenty thousand times a day, every day between then and now, for that to be true. And if the response is that he was obviously exaggerating, you might ask what else he "obviously" exaggerates, and how to tell the difference.
__________________
It's not a matter of living life without mystery or wonder. It's a matter of living life without the approval of people who ignorantly assume that by rejecting the irrational, I experience no mystery or wonder. And frankly, I do just fine without that.
Quinn is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 26th November 2009, 12:03 PM   #14
PrettyKitty
Student
 
Join Date: Nov 2009
Posts: 25
Hey todd,

A few years ago my mother also went to see several "energey" healers for some chronic back pain.

Now, she is a very smart and educated woman, but has been getting a little woo-y as she ages. Tells me my horoscope every time I see her, tries to interpret her dreams etc.

She claimed she felt the warmth of the energy coming from the healer each time she went, and that her pain was cured. Alas, after a few days, the pain returned.

I tried to reason with her, but to no avail, she would only get angry with me. She would go see a different one after the pain came back. Eventually, she stopped going. We never discussed it, but I assume it's because it was getting expensive and the "relief" only lasted a few days.

I hope your mom isn't going through anything life threatning and eventually sees the light
PrettyKitty is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Old 26th November 2009, 12:19 PM   #15
Baby Nemesis
Master Poster
 
Baby Nemesis's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2008
Location: UK
Posts: 2,381
Faith/spiritual healers might often do a lot to reduce pain temporarily when it's being caused to a large extent by muscular tension. Being pampered and maybe massaged in a relaxing environment will reduce tension and thus often pain. If someone asks a friend to chat to them and maybe gently massage bits of the affected area that aren't too painful, perhaps while listening to soothing music, it might work just as well for just as long.
Baby Nemesis is offline   Quote this post in a PM   Nominate this post for this month's language award Copy a direct link to this post Reply With Quote Back to Top
Reply

International Skeptics Forum » General Topics » General Skepticism and The Paranormal

Bookmarks

Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Forum Jump


All times are GMT -7. The time now is 04:47 AM.
Powered by vBulletin. Copyright ©2000 - 2021, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.

This forum began as part of the James Randi Education Foundation (JREF). However, the forum now exists as
an independent entity with no affiliation with or endorsement by the JREF, including the section in reference to "JREF" topics.

Disclaimer: Messages posted in the Forum are solely the opinion of their authors.